Relationships Path
Your most challenging relationships are the most important part of your life game.
Every significant relationship is a soul contract. The person who hurt you most, the one you can't get over, the dynamic you keep recreating with different faces — they are the other characters in your game, showing up to be the exact lesson you came here to work.
On this path, we take one relationship — your choice — and dig all the way down: through the pattern it's part of, to the lesson underneath it.
The Relationship Path: The Big Picture
What it is: One-on-one coaching focused on a single relationship — current or ended, romantic, family, friend, or coworker. You pick the relationship; it becomes our case study.
What we do: Nine hour-long sessions, virtual or in person in Portland, usually every 2-3 weeks. We figure out what this relationship keeps activating in you, where that pattern comes from (this life and possibly earlier ones), and what it's trying to teach you — then you start showing up differently, on purpose.
What you leave with: The lesson this relationship is teaching you. Healing. An understanding of the role this relationship plays in your life. And a way forward — with the relationship or without it.
The Two Tracks
Track A - The Living Relationship
A relationship that's currently painful, stuck, or that you want to navigate differently.
The endgame: show up as a conscious player in it. Understand what it's activating, work the lesson, develop new behaviors — and engage from a different internal place, whether you ultimately stay or go.
Track B - The Past Relationship
A relationship that's over, but you can't move on — grief, obsession, resentment, a loop you can't exit.
The endgame: closure and release, with the lesson actually integrated, so you don't recreate the same dynamic with the next person. This track looks backward longer — and the forward work is about who you become after this relationship, not how you engage within it.
Who This Is For
You know the loop: replaying the argument in the shower, drafting the text you don't send, rehearsing the conversation you'll never actually have. Maybe checking their page and hating that you did. If some version of that lives in your head — this path is built for exactly that.
☐ There's one relationship — current or ended — that takes up far more space in your head and heart than you want it to
☐ You keep finding the same dynamic in different relationships, and you're starting to suspect the common thread is trying to tell you something
☐ You want to understand what this relationship is activating in you and helping you learn — not just vent about the other person
☐ You're ready to change how you show up in relationships, including with your relationship with yourself
How the Path Works:
This is deep work — change starts from session one, and by the end we'll have seen this relationship from every direction. Here's the journey:
⓪ The Lay of the Land Intro Session
We get oriented: your Soul Age and Soul Type results — and how your build shows up in how you relate. We identify the relationship you're bringing, which track you're on, and the work ahead. Then you decide if this path is for you.
① Look Forward & Backward | Selecting the Game You Want to Play
We set the destination — how you want this relationship (and yourself in it) to feel — and start unpacking the story so far. The gaps between those two things chart our path.
② Look Backward — This Life | The Gameplay So Far
We map the trail of this relationship and your relational history: where things branched, stalled, or dead-ended, what role you played in your family's dynamics, and where these same themes show up across your life.
③ Look Backward — Past Lives | Previous Games
Some relationships are older than this lifetime. We explore whether you've met before, and what dynamics carried over — with a past-life tarot reading to go deeper.
④ Look Under | Decoding the Game Mechanics
We go beneath the patterns: the behaviors, the wounds they've been protecting, and the fears they've been managing. The pattern was once protective — we find out from what.
⑤ Look Deeper |The Mirror Level
Gentle shadow work: the thing about this person that activates the strongest reaction in you is usually pointing at something worth meeting in yourself. We meet it with care, not judgment.
⑥ Look Over |The Zoom Out
We zoom out to see the whole board: the patterns translated into lessons, and the soul contract reframe — if this person was chosen to play this role in your game, what are they here to show you that you couldn't see without them?
⑦ Look Inside | The Level Objective
What does all of this say about your relationship with yourself? What is this level actually asking you to develop — not in the other person, in you?
⑧ Look Outside | The Boss Fight
Time to test the new build in live play. We design The Experiment — one real move the old pattern would never have allowed. For a living relationship, that's one moment of showing up differently. For an ended one, it's one real act of release — the move that starts the next chapter instead of replaying the last one.
⑨ Choose Your Next Adventure
We wrap the path: what's shifted, your going-forward plan — including what you'll do when the old pattern resurfaces, because it will test you; that's not failure, that's the final exam — and what's next: continued monthly support, a new path, or off you go into the open world.
Along the way: energy healings woven into key sessions, practical exercises between sessions — your homework, but the kind that changes things — including maps and resources to help you continue to integrate this work over time.
Pricing
The Lay of the Land intro session is $75 — a one-time discounted rate to get oriented and make sure we're a good fit before you commit to anything.
From there, each session on the path is $120.
No packages, no upfront commitment. You book as you go, session by session — and you can pause, slow down, or stop at any point. This is your adventure; you set the pace.
Ready to Get Started?
Start with the Lay of the Land session — a 60-minute intro conversation where we look at your Soul Age and Soul Type, explore what they mean for your life right now, and figure out whether this path is the right fit.
Book a virtual Lay of the Land session to get us started below.
If you want to book an in person session at my downtown Portland, Oregon office, you can do that right here.